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CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNER Part 1 “THE SPECTACLE”

HEARTSTREAMS daily devotionals (singles and married)

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CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNER PART 1

“THE SPECTACLE”

PROV 19:14-15

Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

NKJV

 

Adam must have thought he had everything he needed , as a matter of fact, until this day he felt totally complete, no voids, no feelings of loneliness, no craving for someone, he just seem perfect, perfect…until the aching began, something has changed inside him, he could feel it, he had slept one night and woke up the next morning feeling almost lifeless, like a surgery had been done on him, together with the sense of overwhelming weariness came an ache he has never known before, almost like a rib was missing beside him, he knew he needed something or is it someone, but he can’t really place his hands on it, he had had some good times in the garden, times spent with his great father enjoying his glorious works in the garden, he enjoyed worshipping him, times with the creatures that kept him company, times to enjoy the sights and fruits of the delightful garden. The other day he finished the herculean task of naming all the animals in the garden, he had wanted to throw a party, he had wanted to celebrate, but noticed there was no one to celebrate with, there was especially no one like him. He speaks to his father about everything from how his day went to his next day’s project, but there were things he couldn’t just tell him, he would need maybe…Someone else to confide in.

He noticed how all the animals in the garden were all in twos but couldn’t really explained why he was, well…Alone. But today is different, He felt something had happened to him and whatever it is, he must talk to his God-father about it. Then he heard the voice of his father walking in the garden in the cool of the day as usual. This time, he has a lot on his mind to discuss with him; he approached his father but stopped on his track when he saw the most spectacular sight of his life there beside him. She was angelic and godlike at the same time, something inside Adam was moved so deeply, emotions flooded him, his heart races within his rib cage in passionate anticipation. Feeling he had never felt before surged within him. Something tells him his life will never remain the same again. God himself was a divine spectacular sight to behold, but seeing this beautifully creature and human spectacle, he was wowed, she looks exactly like him and in a way more…well, more everything than him. He just couldn’t take his eyes off her, then it came to him, “woo…man, she is like me, she is a another form of me, a ‘wombed’ me”. He knew things about her that he normally shouldn’t.

God, the father, was observing Adam as he admired the woman he carved out from his side, he delighted in his delight, he had taken his time over night, put him into a very deep sleep and made a beautiful delightful female creature out of the rib from his side. From his side…because God knew the woman will be closest to his heart (after him) , just like the rib is close to his natural heart, he knew also that he would cherish her keeping her in the embrace of his arm just like the rib is almost always cherished by the arm, she was taken from his bone, making her a bone of his bone, she will connect deep with him and be one with him, he knew she will meet a deep need for intimacy in him, both will be a delight to each other. Father God knew he has created a master piece when he made the woman, but he also know they were going to be at their best only when united with each other, fulfilling the purpose for which he created them-to have dominion. They were going to be made one person out of two individuals, two becoming one. That moment was reverting for the three of them. That is the way the father wanted it, the relationship will not just be about the two of them, he must be involved. he knew that a good father doesn’t’ just give house and riches to his son, a good father would find a good wife to his son, he was going to show us through how Abraham found wife for his son Isaac, that ‘a good wife is from the Lord”, it wasn’t a mistake that God himself brought Eve to Adam, it wasn’t Adam’s job to search for a wife, it was his job to receive a wife from his father. That moment in time was life changing both for Adam and eve.

CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER

If marriage must be a sweet journey for every one of us then making the right choice cannot be taken with levity. from the first man that was introduced to the marriage institution by God to our time, God has made each one of us with a desire to bond with someone of the opposite sex, we desire intimacy and we want to be loved and accepted by this one person, but how do we make the righ choice, can we just choose by ourselves or there is a very thorough involvement of God in our marital choices, what wisdom can we glean form the word of God that will help us to prevent the trap many fall into in venturing into the wrong partnership. we start a series today “CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNER”, after this series your journey to making the right choice becomes paved with ease. God bless you.

CONFESS THIS

My life fulfills purpose, my life is giving glory to God, my marital destiny enjoys favour upon it in Jesus name. I will not miss my path, I will get it right in Jesus name.

PRAY THIS

I receive wisdom to make the right choices in every area of my life, in my business, in my career, in my relationships, and in my life in general. I am equipped by the spirit of God for right choices in Jesus name.

DO THIS

Study the word of God for yourself and find out what God is saying about how to choose your life partner.

STUDY THIS

Gen 2; 18-25

 

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MAKING LOVE CHOICES Part 2

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PART 2: MAKING LOVE CHOICES

Ps 119:98-99: You, through Your commandments, make me wiser than my enemies; For they are ever with me. 99 I have more understanding than all my teachers, For Your testimonies are my meditation. NKJV

Every information we give in this devotional is to help us make the best choices in life and relationship. But if we aren’t aware of the fact that we are making choices, or if we aren’t aware of the choices we are making, then we may become a victim of choices that we make or refuse to make.

TAKE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CHOICES YOU MAKE.

No one can make your choices for you. You have to make them yourself. if you said “they forced you to do that and they forced you to do this”, you are the one who allowed yourself to be forced, you choose to be forced. You can choose not to be forced. So wake up. At the end of every choice you make, you are the major benefactor of the pain or the gain. Others may suffer or enjoy the result with you, but you will be the one person who will bear the greatest part of it, so watch what you choose

Never ever blame anyone for your pain. It’s useless. In the first place it’s either you created the pain in your life. You allow the situation that caused the pain or as it were you can determine your response to that pain. Never relinquish the power of your choice. If you blame others for your pain, will you pass the blame too if you get the gain. It’s amazing how people always take the praise for the good things in their lives, but they look for who to blame once things go wrong. The greatest undoing of so many people I see in relationship is that they either think they have no choice, or they point accusing fingers at others for the choice that they make.

You are where you are today because of the choices you made or refuse to make. Where you are going to be tomorrow will be based on the decision you make or refuse to make today. There is no giving up the power of your choice, since you are making a choice even if you choose not to make a choice, (that is a choice in itself)

IGNORANCE IS NOT AN EXCUSE

Every choice is made to meet a certain personal expectation, but if that expectation is going to be met or not is based in the richness of the information that our decisions are based. Poor information leads to bad judgment and bad choices, good information leads to poor decisions and choices. and since we are a product of our choices, we are obviously a product of the knowledge we have or refuse to have.

My people perish for lack of knowledge.

Your greatest asset in the school of decision making is the right knowledge. It is revelation that makes our decisions good and our destinations great. The knowledge you have determines the privilege you enjoy. You have to learn the right things while unlearning the wrong information you are working with, and then use the knowledge you have to make the right choices.

WE MAKE OUR CHOICES, THEN OUR CHOICES MAKES US

Whatever you sow today, you will reap tomorrow. Your choice is your only control over your future, once you decide today; you have determined where you will reside tomorrow. God always leaves you with a certain control over your future, if not he cannot judge you or hold you responsible for your life.

WISE CHOICES ARE MADE THIS WAY

there are two basic ways to make the right choices

BY THE WORD OF GOD 2. BY THE SPIRIT OF GOD

Although both of them are similar, they operate differently

BY THE WORD OF GOD

Never run relationships, emotionally or generally from the opinion of people or the media around you. The scripture must be the basics for every decision you make, you must thus have a deep understanding of the word of God concerning relationships. This is important, because people’s intelligence often reduces once their emotion of love is activated. Most people in love as little IQ, that’s why you must prepare when there is no emotional confusion, learn what the principles of the word says about everything. How did the bible tell us to make marital choices? What should be our behavior inside relationships? How do we handle conflicts when they arise? For example it is clear that “you must learn to be at peace with all men”, so why should you be always disagreeable with your spouse. I also read in my bible that “I should do nothing with selfish ambition’, why should I run a relationship thinking everything is about me? Self centeredness will get me nowhere in relationship. Many people will be rescued from heart aches and pains if only they acquaint themselves with what the word of God says. Job 22:21-22 “Now acquaint yourself with Him, and be at peace; Thereby good will come to you. 22 Receive, please, instruction from His mouth, And lay up His words in your heart. NKJV. it also pays to study the example of characters in the bible and see how they responded to situations, and learn from them

BY THE SPIIRT OF GOD

There will be some situations you will face in your relationship that only by the specific voice of the spirit you will know how to respond, if you do not have the Holy Spirit in you, or you not know how to listen and hear his voice, you will definitely get into trouble. The bible says: to be spiritually minded is life and peace’ but when you are carnally minded, or naturally inclined you will get into several troubles. If you operate with common sense, you will make major mistakes. I have counseled tons of people who have no clue how God leads people inside their relationships. I will treat this series in the future, but you must understand, good decisions are based on the word and the spirit of God on the inside of you.

TO BE CONTINUED.

COMING UP NEXT

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CONFESS THIS

I choose what God chooses for me, and I do what the word says all the time in Jesus name.

PRAY THIS

Open my heart to your word and to the voice of your spirit so that I can be led by your word and by your spirit to make the best of choices in my life and relationships

DO THIS

Decide to study the word and read books on how to be led by the spirit

 

STUDY THIS

PSALM 119:99-112

 

Yours in LOVE

PST AYO GARUBA

 

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MAKING LOVE CHOICES

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MAKING LOVE CHOICES

Deut 30:19-20

19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;

NKJV

We are starting a series on Love and its going to be expository. Before we go deep into the issue of love let us have some basic understanding about Love.

Most of the choices we make in relationship are love choices: from the choice of who to ‘date’, to the choice of ‘why’ we want to marry, to the choice of how we run our relationships. All these choices will determine the eventual outcome of our relationship lives. There so many people’s choices that are misguided, that means that people can make choices based on wrong premises or wrong assumptions, in this case they end up losing out. Whenever you see people suffer in relationships, you are seeing people who have made a couple of wrong decisions and made wrong choices. This is because every choice we make has a repercussion that goes with it.

EVERY CHOICE ATTEMPTS TO MEET PERSONAL NEEDS

I go into relationship, because I have a need for relationship. Every need man have is legitimate. There is no time when what you ever want is wrong. You want a companion; God wants a companion for you. You want to have someone who can take care of you, God wants that also. You want to enjoy sexual intimacy; God desires that for you as well. There is nothing you want that is wrong in themselves, there is nothing that you desire that God wasn’t the one that placed the desire there. so we must understand that at the basal level of every choice make is a question we are asking “will my specific need in a certain area be met by this choice an making?” then you know this, it rescue you from being addicted to things while still being able to meet you’re your love needs. The only problem is when we want these things at the wrong time, at the wrong places or with the wrong people.

EVERY CHOICE IS MOTIVATED BY DESIRES OR WANTS

Most people often pursue what they want rather than what they truly need. Blessed is he whose needs and want coincides, because he will have most of his needs met. But if you begin to want what you don’t need , there is trouble, because most people will get what they want but they may still not be satisfied because that isn’t what they need. What I need is what will truly satisfy my God given healthy hunger, what I want is what I feel or assume that I need. What I want is what I “think’ that I need. For example if I am thirsty I may “think’ that I need alcohol, but the truth is what I really need is water, but as at that moment, what I want is alcohol. So my wants will cost me more and I may not still be satisfied. So when making choices of love, ask yourself, “this desire or want that I have, will it really meet my real needs or will I still be unsatisfied at the end?”

EVERY CHOCIE IS BASED ON WHAT WE BELIEF

You can only make a choice to the degree of the information you have. Poor information births poor choices, rich information births rich choices. life will often present you will a lot of options, most like there are few right ones to choose, many times, only one aright option, so you require wisdom to make the best of choices all the time. Remember to make this right choice, we separate between needs and wants. Most times our wants are based on how we have learnt to meet how needs. If we learn wrongly, our desires will be wrong. If we learn rightly, our desires will be right. Be careful what you want because you may actually have them, but when I have them, will I really have joy. For example, I need love but I want a beautiful girl. Why do I want her beautiful? That will be because from my experience, or from what I have learnt from life I think “beauty” equals love. That in a funny way there is a connection between the beauty that a girl has and the feeling of love that I am looking for. Is this true? What if the girl despite her beauty has no character? What if the lady has no vision for life? What if she is not the right person for me, will she still be able to truly meet my love needs, if I pray and pay to get her, the truth is that I can force God to give her to me, but will I have a great marriage, I don’t think so.

EVERY CHOICE HAS ITS OWN REALITY

That you assume you will have your needs met when you make a certain choice does not mean it will happen, most people often interpret love in terms of what they can get, most people want to believe that the decision or choices they have made is the best and it will meet their emotional needs. If this will happen just have they predicted or not is not going to be based on our personal assumption, it will be based on the truth. The scripture is the source of this truth. so if I am hungry for love and go and have sexual intimacy with some so I am not married to, even thought based on my personal Belief I assume my love need will be met, but the bible tells me I am piling u coals of fire on my own lap. Who will be true, the word of course. No matter how i assume I should be satisfied, I will not be satisfied because, fornication is not meant to help meet my needs, it will damage me instead. Just like if I am thirsty, the reality is that I need water, If I drink a toxic substance like petrol instead of water, my thirst will not be quenched and the truth is that I may injure myself with that drink. so we must come to admit that our belief about love many time will be wrong and the consequence we enjoy or suffer is a result of the reality of our choices, do not point accusing finders at any person for your pain in relationships, you must take personal responsibility for all the choices that you make. Because when you make a choice, as it were you have subscribed to the reality that that choice will bring with it. If it is good, you enjoy if it is bad, you will have to endure it.

EVERY CHOICE WILL LEAD TO ULTIMATE PAIN OR PLEASURE

You must learn to separate temporary results from permanent results, short term results from long time results. Perceived results from real results. Since every decision will take you to a destination and every choice will have a repercussion, you must ensure you are actually making the best decision that will meet your true needs. If you do not, you will suffer at the long run. Some decisions will seem to be working for now, but you may suffer them later. And there are some choices you make today that may seem painful in the moment, but you will enjoy them later. Pain is inevitable, the real question is, “will you choose productive positive pain or destructive negative pain”. When you choose to deny yourself of some things, you are enduring positive pain, so as to avoid future pains.

TO BE CONTINUED

 

CONFESS THIS

I receive the capacity to make the right choice in life in Jesus name

 

PRAY THIS

Lord, give me the wisdom to choose life in my relationship in Jesus name

 

DO THIS

Ask yourself, am I presently making the best decision for my destiny and my future right now.

 

STUDY THIS

Deut 30:1-20

 

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PST AYO GARUBA

 

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YOU ARE EITHER IN RELATIONSHIP FOR THIS REASON OR YOU ARE PLAYING GAMES

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YOU ARE EITHER IN RELATIONSHIP FOR THIS REASON OR YOU ARE PLAYING GAMES

Gen 2:18

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

NIV

In the last couple of devotionals we have tried to trash out many wrong reasons for relationships. We established the fact that many people’s purpose for relationship is wrong that is why in the first place they are experiencing a lot of issues in their marital destiny. Once the real reason for a thing in not understood, it is bound to be abused, misused and confused.

Now let’s check the word of God for the purpose for relationship.

Primarily there is just one purpose for any relationship. revealed by God The marriage institution was established by God for this purpose. There are many expressions of this purpose but the central reason in the heart of God is just one. Like we explained earlier, we must separate between the purpose of a thing and the other benefits of that thing. We must also separate between the purpose of a thing and the additional values of that thing. Once we have the purpose of relationship in mind, it will help us navigate every other aspect of relationship properly

Let’s follow our bible text for today.

The introduction of the marital institution came first when God made man (male and female), Gen 1:27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

Earlier on he had already announced the reason for making man (both male and female) in the first place. So whatever Eve is coming to do is to help the male (Adam) to fulfill the reason for which they both were made in the first place. So what was the purpose in God’s mind for making man?

Gen 1:26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion…

Why did God create man? So that they can have dominion

Why did he create Eve, his wife? So that she can help him. Help him to do what? To have dominion: His purpose is very powerful because everything man is blessed with later is to attain dominion purpose. Gen 1:28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over …the earth” NKJV

God made man to make a difference in his world, by him making that difference, man will ultimately be pleasing his maker. So, your relationship is not for your pleasure, it is not for your financial security, or your sexual pleasure. it is not just so that you can have someone to talk to, your relationship was made to please God, and how do you please God, by fulfilling your own quota in life, God has an assignment for you and your spouse, that assignment will impact your world and his purpose to make it a better place. Your life is supposed to make a difference. You are not on a selfish mission; you are on a sacrificial mission. You were not made to live for yourself, you were made to live for God and thus live to serve his people. you may give birth to children but if you are not fruitful in life towards other people, then you have wasted the life your were given, many people are clamoring for relationship, they are clamoring for marriage, they are falling in love and they are wedding every day, but how many people even know the will of God for their lives, how many people know what they were made for? How many people have discovered the reason God made them? How many people know how to find the life partner that is suitable to be a destiny helper? your life partner is not just a sex partner, he or she is not a business partner, he or she is not a house cleaner, your life partner is a destiny partner, there is a grand purpose, there is a clear intention in the mind of God for your life and your relationship is suppose to achieve that purpose.

If you go into relationship for any other reason than this, then your relationship will most likely destroy your destiny instead of helping your destiny. It is destiny consciousness that births relationship greatness. How many times have people been into a relationship where they went into illicit sex and they ended up jeopardizing their destiny? Samson’s destiny was defeated on the lap of Delilah. As a female, are you a destiny helper or are you a destiny destroyer? As a male, are you helping her to become a help for you, or are you leading her to destroy you? When for example you allow sexual immorality as a man, you are allowing a female to help destroy you. She is created to help, in whatever you do, if you live a purposeless life, she will help you achieve that, if you live a dubious life, she will help you to achieve that too.

As a female, are you conscious of your destiny and the destiny you are supposed to help? You must be careful the head you choose. If a tiger chooses the head of a crocodile, she ends up as a monster, not everyone can be your husband, you are not suitable for everyone, you cannot just agree to him because of anything except you sense destiny bring you together.

So, purpose is the platform for partnership in marriage. Destiny is the womb of divine relationships.

TO BE CONTINUED

CONFESS THIS

Lord, my divine destiny will be achieved in Jesus name; my marriage shall enhance my destiny in Jesus name.

PRAY THIS

Lord, remove me from any relationship that is diminishing my destiny and reposition me into my own divine relationship in Jesus name.

DO THIS

Get a book on purpose discovery PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE is recommended

STUDY THIS

PHIL 3:1-21

 

Yours in LOVE

PST AYO GARUBA

 

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