THE INVISIBLE BOND OF LOVE
(Part 3 EMOTIONAL CONNECTION)
It is in emotional connection that we give our hearts away either consciously or unconsciously.
Emotional connection is the bridge between two hearts yearning for Love and care, it’s the bond between two souls seeking for interaction and relationship. It’s the connection of two souls seeking to be known and accepted for who they are. Without emotional connection, there can be no relationship.
Relationship is like a transaction between two people, who brings something to the table to exchange, the actual act of exchanging what they have to offer is done through an invisible connection that exist within the two of them, between their two hearts.
This “Invisible connection or string” might sound strange to you but let me give you an example in the bible in 1 Sam 18:1
“As soon as he (David) had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan (saul’s son) was knit (bonded, connected) to the soul of David, and Jonathan D loved him as his own soul. ESV
The message bible puts it this way
“By the time David had finished reporting to Saul, Jonathan was deeply impressed with David — an immediate bond was forged between them. He became totally committed to David.”
(THE MESSAGE BIBLE)
Here we see two souls “knitting together” the Hebrew word “qashar” means “to tie together, either physically or mentally (emotional and intellectual), bind and join together.
That is a connection forged between the two souls
Now note how this connection was formed
Jonathan was impressed or attracted by David
There was proximity between them
They spent time with each other
There was communication between them
Then love emotions begins to flow between them
Now you see here that even though they were both males, it still happens.
Emotional connection is a law it has no regard for gender. Once the parameters for emotional connection are present, it will happen between any two persons.
If a female or male impresses you, or you are drawn to that person, once you start spending time with them and communicating with them, you are going to bond emotionally with them, that is good or bad depending on who you are bonding with. In the above case, both had a strong but healthy emotional bond with each other.
There is a male-female example also in the bible, this time, it was an unhealthy bond created by sexual union in Gen 34:2-3
“And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her.b3 And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.” KJV
“Clave” has a similar meaning to “knit”, it is also a form of connection between two people.
Now we see that not only does emotional connection eventually leads to physical connection, but physical connection can lead to unhealthy emotional connection if done wrongly
That is why people in relationship who place the physical ahead of the spiritual will have unhealthy emotional bonding. The rule here is: Never bond emotionally with someone you are not committed spiritually to already. Because anyone you bond with emotionally, that won’t abide with you spiritually, will slice you physically and emotionally.
Anyone you bond with, you have given power to affect you.
Anyone you connect with emotionally can control you physically.
That’s why it hurts when your friend back stabs you, if it’s your enemy, you can bear it, but not your friend. You don’t have emotional connection with your enemy, it’s your friend you are connected to. Why does it hurt that much? Because they have a direct access to your heart, they can thus do whatever they want with your heart.
It is thus foolishness to trust your heart with someone you have not tested.
Also note that any couple who is married but refuses to bond physically through sexual intercourse with their spouse will drift apart emotionally and spiritually. Sexual connection is not a tool to punish your spouse if you don’t want to be a fool in that house. Fools lose their spouse to someone who is ready to bond with their spouse outside their house while they are using sex as a tool to punish them in the house.
It’s amazing today the amount of possibilities to bond with people you are not even physically in the same location with. Communication through social media and telecommunications has made it possible to have strong bonds with people you don’t even know or are committed to.
That is why even if you are in a relationship with someone physically in location but you keep bonding with people on the social media and through the phone, you are committing emotional infidelity, it is called unfaithfulness. That is why the bible says to guard your heart with all diligence, (out of it flows the emotions of life)
There is nothing like “no strings attached” in relationship, the truth is once you are connecting, the string is already attached.
The key to know if you are bonding with someone either through the air (internet) or on land is “pleasure”, if someone more than your spouse gives you more emotional pleasure than what your spouse is giving you, then you are committing emotional fornication or adultery.
Lord, I am strengthened to forge healthy bonds and to refuse unhealthy bonds in Jesus name.
Lord, I release my heart from every wrong bond I have forged wrongly in the past affecting me in the present in the name of Jesus
Stop communication with anyone you are bonding with and is not God’s will for you. Start communication with the person God has given to you. Ensure you keep your communication healthy at all time between covenant relationships in your life.
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Ayo Garuba (pst)
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