HOW CAN I AVOID CHANGE IN MY RELATIONSHIP
QUESTION AND ANSWER
Sir, I am presently in a relationship that was initiated by God, and I love the person but am afraid I will change towards him when we get married. Like I may not be submissive, or I may be rude or something etc. Please sir, How do I ensure that I don’t change?
Fear is automatic when insight is lacking. So every fear in a relationship is a product of lack of wisdom in that area and that is nothing to be ashamed of, we are all ignorant, it’s just that it is to different degrees.
Now the issue of change is something we must understand. While people are hoping they do not change or their spouse should not change, I pray they do. Even God hopes they change
Yes, you and your spouse must keep changing.
If you both are not changing, then you do not have a relationship.
The truth is change is constant in life. You are either changing for worse or changing for better.
The problem thus is not change, the problem is unplanned change.
If you don’t plan change, you will be shortchanged.
If both of you do not plan change, you both will be short changed.
So as you are in a relationship or you are going into marriage both you and your partner must plan your positive change process…not the phrase…POSITIVE CHANGE
Positive Change is about both of you growing, it’s about both if you getting better every day. If you are the same way you were five years after you have married, then you are stagnant in your marriage. I do not say you should change for worse, what am saying is keep changing for better. If you were once loving, you must now be more loving, if you were kind before, you must be getting better at kindness. If you were sacrificial before, you must be more sacrificial. You relationship must be changing for better
8 But the path of the just is like the shining sun, That shines ever brighter unto the perfect day. NKJV
The issue here is people don’t expect change.
They do not plan for change, Let alone plan for positive change.
And even most people resist change.
But change is constant. There is a nothing you can do about it. Everything in life is created to change that is why we have hope, things can always get better…Halleluyah
That is why you and your spouse must be divinely ordained by God, if not, both of you will change for worse and you won’t be compactible later on.
The other thing is if one of you is growing and changing for better and the other is not, then problem will arise later on. If you don’t grow together, you will grow apart.
Men must especially take note this: if you are improving in your career and your wife is not growing, she may soon become obsolete in your life, so unity demands both of you plan your growth in all aspects of your life.
Financially, emotionally, spiritually, professionally, physically, in all areas
Read books, attend trainings, go for workshops. Do it together. Ensure that you plan your change together that way you won’t be afraid of anything.
God bless you.
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Yours In Love
Ayo Garuba (pst)
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