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THREE LOVE GIFTS

HEARTSTREAMS daily devotionals (Single and Married)

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THREE LOVE GIFTS

Matt 2:11

11 And when they had come into the house, they saw the young Child with Mary His mother, and fell down and worshiped Him. And when they had opened their treasures, they presented gifts to Him: gold, frankincense, and myrrh.

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Relationships are at the center of Christmas and I will prove it. Jesus was born to restore the relationship of man to God. and when he was born, part of his purpose is to bring goodwill amongst all men/. Luke said it this way in Luke 2:13-14 And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying: “Glory to God in the highest, And on earth peace, goodwill toward men!”

To truly celebrate this season let us bring our gifts to the baby Jesus, but how? Jesus said it in Matt 25:40 “ I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.” so as we give people in our lives these three gifts on this day on, it will be like a gift to baby Jesus

There are three gifts you must give today, don’t worry. Everyone can give it, as long as you can read these words, you can, they are gifts of words. There are three different statements, with three different words, that you must never wait for people to give you before you give it to them, especially when you are in a relationship. These words will mean the difference between the successes of any friendship or relationship. these words have ruined marriages when not said, has terminated relationships when waited for instead given out, yet they are not suppose to be said because of what you may lose of you don’t say them, you should say them because they are true to what you feel at that time and also because of what you will get back when given to your loved ones, you get the gift of their heart.

The first of these love gifts is “I LOVE YOU”

Never ever say these words if you do not mean them. Never say these words if you can’t prove them .Never say these words if you will take them back. Now if you have decided to give out the gift of these three words in your relationships, you must say them first all the time, you must say them regardless less how you feel, you must say them until you can’t breathe again. These words were first said by God when he loved us so much. they are words that you must learn to say to your spouse, they are words you must learn to say to your friends, they are words you learn to say to your family members, the world will be a better place of people say it more than they complain about others, if they told them how much they love you instead of telling you how much you need to correct, if they told you how much they Love you instead of trying to change you. People rarely receive these gifts, and I can prove it, when last did you hear it apart from someone who was trying to ask you out? You try and tell you mum today or your friend at work who you cherish how much you love and appreciate them, you will be surprised at what happens. Text it to someone, just call someone to tell them ‘I love you’ this Christmas, tell them you may not have all the gifts in the world, but you really love them. Wonders happen when you tell someone “I Love you”

The second gift is the gift of “I THANK YOU”

I think most people are underappreciated. Most of us do not value what we have and especially those in our lives most times until we lose them, and the alternative to saying thank you to people is literarily complaining about them most of the time. Sometimes some parents never tell their children thank you, one girl said she has never heard her father tell her thank you before, she said maybe because she is a girl. I was thanking this girl for how much she has helped me to learn about other teenagers in ministry and she was asking that do I really mean my ‘THANK YOU’, please I beg of you call your loved one and thank them from the depth of your heart, give them reasons why you are thanking them, tell them you will never trade them for anything in the world, tell them you will never trade them for anyone in the world. Remember even if the person has hurt you in the past, am sure they have done things or been someone to you whom you cannot replace in your life, you can do it in a special way: send a thanks card. Write It to them0, package a gift and tell them it’s a thank you gift, you can be creative with it, do this and give me a feed back the things you noticed about how people respond to you.

The third but not the last gift to give out is the gift of “I AM SORRY”

Well this one may be the most difficult part to give since its going to take a lot of humility to do this. but the truth is you do not need to have feelings for this to do this, you must just be willing to repair your relationship with that person. it may be a long lost friend or family member, it may be to your mum or to your dad, it may just be that you need to say it often to you lover so you be at peace with them, may be you are the kind of person that never says you are sorry, it’s time to give this gift away. the rule is, always be the first person to say it, always say it and mean it at the same time, , when we say we are sorry, we are always willing to repair relationships.

This season for us is a season of rediscovering the treasures in the relationships in our lives, it’s a season of healing these relationships and repairing them if they are broken and it’s a season of building them further into nurturing vibrant relationships, no matter the type of relationship in question here. “I love you” will open their hearts for you, “I thank you” will bring you into their heat and “I am sorry” will help you heal their heart, whatever you do this season keep giving.

From the stable of heart streams ‘I love you’, you are the reason why we do what we do and ‘I thank you’ for being a part of our success story this year, ‘I am sorry’ if we haven’t be the best we can, we will surely be better next year, love to have your comments, Merry Christmas and a happy new year in advance.

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‘DEMOCRATIC’ LOVE AFFAIR

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DEMOCRATIC LOVE AFFAIR

1 Sam 8:19-20

Nevertheless the people refused to obey the voice of Samuel; and they said, “No, but we will have a king over us, 20 that we also may be like all the nations, and that our king may judge us and go out before us and fight our battles.”

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The Government of the people, by the people for the people is not the kind of Government that a God runs, his righteous government is never democratic, it is theocratic (God-ruled). This is especially true when it comes to important matters in our lives, and that includes marital relationships. public opinion has never been the yardstick with which God runs our relationship lives, so we must be careful not to look to people to get the endorsement we need for any relationship, but instead to wait strictly on God to guide us through the issue of relationships, as we can see, without A continuous relationship with God, it becomes impossible to have a successful relationship with any one for that matter.

one major barrier to knowing the will of God or following the will of God for our lives is personal preferences, but worse is even popular preferences, where what people love generally is what we also love, all because there is this lie of the devil in our minds that “the voice of the people is the voice of God”, or that “so much people can’t be wrong”, and that is not true

These are qualities of a “Democratic Lover”

The reason why you go into relationship ranges from 1. What everybody is doing, 2. The fact that you need someone in your life. 3. How would you look to people when you are in a relationship 4.what needs can he or she meets in your life that will improve your social status

Democratic lovers love the public to love them. They dress for them, they school for them, they speak for them, public can be as simple as friends and family or as broad every0one around you, even people that do not care about you, yet you care about what they think or say about you. You can’t claim to love God and ‘love’ the people at the same time. When you love God, you must hate anything that doesn’t align with what God is saying

You are in a wrong relationship but you are afraid of getting out because of what people will say, in the first place you entered because of what people are saying

You are at a certain age and you feel pressured to start dating anyone, because people are asking you about marriage

You decide to go and have sex because you are tired of the shame of people calling you naïve, inexperience and a ’virgin’

Everybody thinks both of you look good together, so you decided to give it a try without consulting with your maker.

You notice you worry so much about what your group of friends or family members are saying that what the word of God is saying pales beside them

You constantly get advice from the wrong set of people and not even a word from Godly people

Notice that there is no God factor in the democratic lovers’ relationship life, this is a perfect recipe for a life of misfortune, avoid it.

the issue here is most of us love to heed to popular opinion because we want to be loved and accepted by the people, we fear people rejecting us, yet the fear of man is still a trap. Saul made that mistake, the Israelites made the mistake, they wanted to be like the surrounding nations, they were tired of being different because of what they believed, they wanted so badly the accolade and applaud of those who are important to them that they would bend over to do their will.they choose a system of governmnet at isn’t God’s will for them, that was when their trouble started.

watch out, any tendency in your life to please the crowd will constantly generate conflicts between your closest and most important relationships, it will also make you constantly sad and unhappy in the long run because no matter how much you try you cannot please people, so it is wisdom to quit trying.

now when it comes to your relationship life, you must understand that no man created you, even your parents are just purely caretakers, they couldn’t even make the hair of your head if given the whole of eternity to try it, so, no matter how much they try to control or order your life, you must understand that you are ultimately responsible for your own life and you are accountable only to God, you may have to report yourself to a couple of people occassionally, but there is nothing a man can do to you concerning the personal decisions you make in your life, you can thus choose to follow the crowd or choose to follow the voice of the holy spirit as it relate to your life.

CONFESS THIS

Lord, I refuse to compromise you because of others in my life. I will stand for you

PRAY THIS

Lord I receive the Courage to stand out from the crowd and be who you want be to be and do what you want me to do in Jesus name

DO THIS

Surround yourself with the right people and refuse the negative crowd when they come calling

STUDY THIS

EXO 32: 1-29

Yours in LOVE

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PUBLIC “LOVE” OPINION

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PUBLIC “LOVE” OPINIONS…

1 Sam 15:24

Then Saul said to Samuel, “I have sinned, for I have transgressed the commandment of the Lord and your words, because I feared the people and obeyed their voice.

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There are two types of opinions that will contest for your attention in your relationship decision, the first is public opinion, the second is godly opinion, the one you choose will determine your dominion in life and relationship.

Ladies and gentle men there is only one God in your life, if people’s opinion matters to you more than his own opinion then you have made people your God instead of making the God the lord and ruler of your life. Many of us are more moved by what people say than what God s saying, no wonder we get into so many unforeseen circumstances. Especially when it comes to relationship, that an opinion is popular does not mean that it is true; that it is generally accepted does not mean it is good for you. In fact whenever information is in the public domain, you must thoroughly judge it to find out why people like it. The bible say “do not follow the crowd to do evil” Ex 23:2 everybody is doing it, means evil is somewhere there.

So powerful is the opinion of people in our lives that most of our decisions are made based on this factor: if I work in that company how would people accept me? If I wear that dress how will it look to people? if I live in that area will it look good to people? If I marry that girl or that guy how would I appear to people, while it is not wisdom to totally disregard others while making decisions, it is foolishness to put their opinion first ahead of God’s opinion on our lives, there is always two opinions contesting for our minds: what God is saying versus what others are saying

King Saul in the bible is a classic case of someone who lost his throne because he cared more for what people are saying than what God is saying in his life. God had made him a king over Israel, (note that it was God that made him a king, not the people) and he was sent on a specific mission to exterminate a certain tribe of people because of their evil, he did all what God told him to do except that when his people wanted some of the land’s properties which is against the will of God, he became democratic in his opinion, when your love becomes a democratic affair, you are going to start demonstrating foolishness very soon. Even when Saul was corrected, instead of him repenting and changing his ways before God, he still was trying to save his face before his people, (I Sam 15:30) this is unlike David, Saul’s eventual successor who would tear his clothes and repent in dust and ashes right there and then before the God of the universe for his mistakes, (2 Sam 12:13) but no! Saul was just too bothered about what people are saying to obey completely what God is saying. But Peter and John replied, “Judge for yourselves whether it is right in God’s sight to obey you rather than God. Eight things you must know about public’s opinion

Public opinion is not necessarily true: Public opinion may give us a sense of security but it doesn’t guarantee safety, since a life lived in lie will end up in the ditch. For example that everybody agrees that rat poison is good for health doesn’t make it good truly. Agreement with people and agreement with God are two different things, please differentiate it

public opinion changes at anytime, if what people are saying is so reliable why doesn’t keep changing, homosexuality was a taboo at a time but now, we can discuss it freely, people change with fad and tradition, they change with current trend and more recent knowledge, or what is publicizes as the next inn thing, you don’t want to base your life on what is changing, base your life on what is solid, only God’s truth is solid, please learn it

Public cannot help you when you are in trouble because of their opinion, Prov 13:20 He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. when Saul got into trouble, none of his subjects could rescue him, when you displease God because you are trying to please man you end up displeased in every way and “when a man’s way does not please God, even his friends will become an enemy with him”(inverse of Prov. 16:7)

your life is private even though you go public sometimes: you must differentiate between public and private life, but know that you only have one life to live and it is God that gave you that life, you must free yourself from the ‘mass effect’ if not you end up in ‘mass suffering’, if you don’t want your life to end up as popular statistics, please don’t follow popular opinion, follow God’s opinion as written in his word and revealed by his spirit

public don’t really care about you, they only care about themselves: People do what feel good to them and they don’t really care about the repercussion on your life, so you must take personal responsibility for your own life, since they cannot help or defend you when you are in trouble.

you can’t follow God and the public at the same time: Don’t be deceived, the voice of the people is not necessarily the voice of God, and that people endorse what you are doing does not mean God endorses it, so be watchful!

God doesn’t consult the public before he gives you a personal message about your life: Don’t wait for people to do what God ask you to do, if you wait, you may never do it,

when you follow God, the public will eventually follow you : the final fact is those who follow God eventually get followed by men, you may not be popular now, but f you follow God people will follow you because you will command results

In the choice of your marriage please follow God and not man, if you follow God you will enjoy your marriage, if not, you may have to endure it. I pray enjoyment for you in Jesus name.

CONFESS THIS

Lord I choose your own opinion over everyone’s opinion in my life in Jesus name

 

PRAY THIS

Lord, I receive the grace to stand for what you are saying in my life and relationship in Jesus name

DO THIS

Identify all the opinions of people in your life clouding your mind form doing what God wants you to do

STUDY THIS

I Sam 15: 1-end

 

Yours in LOVE

PST AYO GARUBA

 

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WHAT WAS ‘HE’ THINKING?

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WHAT WAS “HE” THINKING?

Isa 55:8

8 “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.

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Imagine if you were God and you were going to send you son, your only begotten son, to the earth to save the world, what kind of thought do you think will be going on in your mind to choose the kind of parents that will nurture Jesus till adult hood.?

For one thing you will never send your son to a man who will use and dump girls, or who would impregnate one girl to another and dump them, because then Jesus will never have a good earthly father or would not even know his father, if he does, Jesus might not have been able to understand who is heavenly father was, because the family structure here on earth is the first place where a child learns about God, if we are not taught well there then we would need years of retraining to even know God and obey his commandments.

God will never send his son to a girl who commits abortion, for an obvious reason that Jesus would have been killed long before he was born in the name of convenience, then he would never see the light of day talk less of become the savior of the world .thank God for second chances for all of us sinners, abortionist are not worse than us, since all have sinned and come short the glory of God. it’s just that they won’t be qualified for that kind of parenthood of the messiah of the world since God cannot afford it. The destiny and life of the whole earth would have been hanging in a balance

so God would have contemplated it very well and would never send his son into the house of a man with a bad character like someone who throws temper tantrum,  if not Jesus would have learnt unhealthy anger and so we would have had a ‘throat cutting savior’ who would rather have the world die for their sins out of anger, than he die for the sin of the whole world. Heaven would have looked at the character and properly screen out the couples  he will choose very well , which I believe he did before choosing Mary and Joseph.

Also he wouldn’t send Jesus to a Materialistic and superficial mother’s house, who would rather buy toys for Jesus when he was growing up than give him the eternal gift of the word of God, how can you give your child what you do not have, Jesus would have failed his first temptation to the devil because all the scripture the devil quoted for him would have sounded true and then he would have failed in his assignment even before he started, or imagine the boy Jesus at 12years old discussing with the professors of the law, I must commend the parents, they must have been diligent to teach Jesus so much of the laws of his heavenly father, so it would have been a major consideration. Not parents that quotes “heaven help those who help themselves” as part of the scripture, God help us singles of today

God would have thought thoroughly about the parent’s definition of love, if love to the potential parents is about ‘getting, getting and getting,’ God would have to thought twice about giving them the opportunity to parent his son on the earth. Imagine if Jesus learnt that the definition of love as “what is in it for me?”, how would he have loved us unconditionally and lay down his life for us. JOHN 3 :16 wouldn’t have existed in the scripture, because it would read something like this “for God so love the world that he took from it all what they have” . Jesus would have been brought up a selfish little brat who is more interested in accumulation and getting than in giving his life for us.

I meet so many singles and all they keep thinking is ‘he must have this, and she must look like this’,’ if he is not this tall, he won’t do, and if she is not this fine, she won’t do’. God would have had to scrutinize and scrutinize all the single ladies and the bachelors on the earth before he looks for where to put his only begotten son, because for crying out loud the relationship principles the world is operating by won’t do for a great destiny and saviour like Jesus to be born there.

Imagine in all the whole world If you were the one to choose a place for your son, where would you have considered placing your only Begotten son. Won’t you have thought of intelligent folks with probably professional degrees and all, and then they must look dashingly handsome and beautiful so that your son would be the Mr. Universe, I mean he is God he should look handsome. and then, they must in a way satisfy some basic financial parameters like have some millions of dollars in their financial account and yes, lest I forget they must be amongst the high and ‘mighties’ in the society , at least the scripture prophecies “the government will be upon his shoulder” of my son so I might as well make the earthly father a very powerful politician who has loads of cash to throw around and connections for Jesus to rule a political party in the future that will give him a leverage in the world, well we would have considered a whole lot of stuff apart from what is really essential, thank God we were not given the opportunity to choose the parents of our savior Jesus, we would have done a very bad job because all our yardsticks would have been so superficial, but remember we would be given the opportunity to choose the parents of the children we would give birth to, I once read the PM (BBM personal message) of one my spiritual daughters, she was telling all the babies in her womb to hold on because she was looking for the best father for her future kids , I don’t know what her parameters are but I am sure they are not as spiritual as she would like us to believe, all the yard sticks would have been very terrestrial and superficial at least going by the messgaes I see on her PM, and if you have followed this devotional thus far then you will realize, those vanities don’t give lasting joy, they don’t make a marriage work, they do not give true substance that will build a lasting marriage or family union, what was God thinking when he choose Joseph and Mary to be the parents of Jesus? I hope the same thing he was thinking is what you are thinking today about choosing the mother or father of your future children, anyways its easier now, you don’t need to think so much, just chose who God is choosing for you, that way you would have received the benefit of God’s thought about your life and marriage. Remain blessed

CONFESS THIS

Lord, position myself to be the right tool to do your will on the earth to bring Godly seeds to this world in the name of Jesus

PRAY THIS

lord, equip me and help me too become the kind of parent that will nurture the seeds you will give me in the future.

DO THIS

Buy books on Godly parenting and start learning what it means to be a parent

STUDY THIS

Prov 22:1-16

Yours in LOVE

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AN ANGEL’S CONVERSATION 2 …The Just Man Saga

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AN ANGEL’S CONVERSATION 2

(The Just Man Saga)

Matt 1:19-20

19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly. 20 But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream… NKJV

Yahweh’s plan was clear right from time about their marriage, but he needed a heart that will follow, it is one thing to hear God, it’s another to follow him…THE JUST MAN SAGA

He paces the place confused by the news his love has just given to him, ridiculous at best, he had trusted Mary all the while they have been friends, in fact after the engagement he knew he has found the right life partner to marry, but what is this that he is hearing, hasn’t he gotten a clear knowing in his heart concerning his union with this maiden or what exactly is going on, Joseph had Thought thoroughly about it, he felt disappointed in Mary’s pregnancy but still loved her, confusion washes over him, sadness grips his heart, he muttered silently words of prayer to heaven “Lord, I need you here”. but heaven seem silent, He thought about it, he thought about her, he still Loves her, his Love was for real, not a fading feeling or a passing passion, his love will not change, even if he doesn’t marry her, “nothing must go wrong with her, this is a volatile situation, no body must know about it, I may not marry her, but I must protect her”, the weight of his thought overcame him, he slept

….A JUST MAN SAGA

Felixa watched as Gabriel approached Joseph, he has been handpicked to be the future father of their maser on the earth, he looked at Gabriel who was getting ready to reach out to him, both of them has been waiting for the perfect timing to reach Joseph’s confused heart, the lord has sent them back after their last encounter with Mary ,his wife to be, the confusion that God’s plan had thrown him into is telling on him, But God has a message that will change everything :his revelational voice always ends our confusions

“Gabriel!”

“Yes Felixa”

“This man, Joseph, is to be the father of our Lord?”

“Yes Felixa and for a good reason”

“Really?”

“You see the lord does not do things without a good reason, just as Mary was chosen by grace and favour, this man too was chosen by the same grace and favour, Yahweh has considered him the right person to be the father of our lord because of his right heart”

“Predestination?” he asked

“Well yes, but many are called but few are chosen. It’s one thing for Yahweh to call you into a relationship with someone; it’s another thing for you to answer the call. Most men do not even know Yahweh has a mission for their relationship talk less of approach him for direction for the choice of a life partner. It’s quite ridiculous how men would think that Yahweh is not interested in the first intuition that he created, they think he is not interested in helping them with their marital decisions”

“That’s ridiculous” said Felixa “why would they think that?”

“Deception Felixa! The ‘evil one’ has deceived each one of them. The ‘Fallen one’ loves to tell Men what they want to believe”

Felixa wondered at what he said, human relationships seem a bit complicated for his simple angelic mind to fully understand, in the angelic realm, their job is as simple as hearing divine instructions of the master and carrying it out with accuracy, they simply do the wishes of their master, they live to please him, that is their purpose, but men are a bit different, they live to please themselves.

“but how is he chosen,?”

“you see, even though Yahweh has predestinated Joseph to be the Lord’s father, he must develop the right heart and a character that will qualify him for this huge assignment, his marriage is beyond being a mere man , he must develop the character of a father, and the heart of a just man”

“So you are saying, it is important for him to have the right heart and a humble character that will help him to fulfill his marital assignment”

“Exactly, I told you some time ago that every marriage is an assignment in disguise given to two people with different genders to fulfill, to fulfill that purpose they must first be aware of the eternal plan of Yahweh for their lives and their marriage”

“Uhmmm”

“While there are side attractions to comfort them in the earthly realm, they must not be carried away by these attractions, They must focus on divine intention behind their marriage. Then secondly they must have the humility of heart to follow through to succeed in their God given marriage, remember this man is a just man that is why we are here in the first place

“What if he disobeys”

“He will not, the Lord trusts him, that is why he was chosen in the first place, Remember father Abraham, he was called to be the father of faith because the lord trusts him and ‘the lord knows he will train his children in the way of the lord’ this is one of the purposes of marriage, to perpetuate the will of Yahweh, but most perpetuate their own desire on the earth, that is why the families on earth are disintegrating”

Felixa’s understanding has increased but there was no more time for them to continue their discuss, it’s always enlightening to work with an experienced Angel like Gabriel. “It’s time” Gabriel said as he approached sleeping Joseph. He touched his tender heart and appeared to him in a dream, he spoke to him “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.”

Joseph suddenly jerked up, the dream had been so real he knew exactly what to do, he has heard the lord clearly spoken

AN ANGELS CONVERSTAION…the Just man saga

The truth is clear, God is still in the business of leading men in to the right relationships, no matter how complicated the situation is right now on earth. even if the guy does not look like it now, even if the girl doesn’t look like your type now, we cannot choose by what we see, we can only choose by what we have heard from Yahweh, developing a sensitivity to God to perceive signals from the other realm is key, and then developing heart of humility and submission to whatever God is saying is very important .Don’t make your choice and tell God to bless it , if not you may be marrying trouble, let God take the reign of your relationship, give him complete control and I promise you, your life will know pure joy and celebration. The one, who formed you in the womb without your knowledge, knows what is best for us. Please trust him and most of your relationship problems will go out of the window. God bless you.

CONFESS THIS

Lord I receive the heart of total submission to your will for my life in every area and I release all my options to you in marriage and relationship, you take complete control in Jesus name

PRAY THIS

Father, open my spiritual ears and give me a humble and obedient heart to make the right choice in relationship in the name of Jesus

DO THIS

Before you make any relationship decision separate yourself for three days, fast and pray on the matter to hear a specific word from God. Ask him, “Lord, is this person my wife or my husband”: let God speak in clear terms to you, then confirm with more matured Christians.

STUDY THIS

Psm 32:8-11, Isa 48:17-19

Yours in LOVE

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AN ANGEL’S CONVERSATION

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AN ANGEL’S CONVERSATION

Luke 1:26-27

Now in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent by God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, 27 to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. The virgin’s name was Mary

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“There was a plan they had in mind for your marriage, how dare you go into one before you even knew the plan…”An Angel’s Conversation

she wasn’t sure what to think anymore, excitement and trepidation fills up her soul at same time, what should she expect in the next series of weeks and months, but whatever it is she has decided she will face it with courage, the visitation she had totally caught her unawares, such greeting from such a person, she still felt shaken by the experience, but purpose was prevailing and she loved it that way

…A VIRGIN

On his way back Angel Gabriel conversed with the other Angel Felixa, their visitation to the earth these days had been more frequent, master obviously has plans they must execute

“She is really is precious as the Lord said she is, such a pure heart” Gabriel noted, Felixa contemplates “but Gabriel, how was she chosen, why her, why not others’

Gabriel looked at him, almost smiling the answer back to him. “Predestination!” he said, Felixa looked at him

“Predestination?”

“Yes .before she was formed in the womb Yahweh knew her and she has been carved and purposed for this end, she is just beginning to know It, but it wasn’t a secret to all of us who serves the father directly on the throne”

. “Uhmmmm, really?”

Felixa seems impressed

“yes , even the person she will get married to was arranged for her, only the man Joseph can actually be the appropriate husband for her and be the earthly father of our Lord , she has been designed to be his mother ,she will nourish him with all our Lord needs to be the savior of the world.

Felixa saw the far reaching consequence of Gabriel’s statement, “two people’s relationship having an eternal consequence just like the relationship of Adam and Eve did.

“but are men aware of the plan of Yahweh for their activities like this, especially marriage?”

Gabriel heaves a sigh “as a messenger angel, the most difficult message have had to deliver to sons of men is about marriage, most often than not, they do not receive it with gladness, other times, they are totally oblivious to it”“

“Why is that so?”

“ first I believe most of them think they are here for themselves, unlike we angels who if we falter we will be banished immediately, men has grace , but their ignorance of God’s heavenly plan for earthly marriages is massive, even now some will never believe it”

Gabriel noted for Felixa the different marriages that operated on earth without any knowledge of eternal consequence. he mentioned how heaven weeps for some tragedies on earth linked directed to wrong choices in marriage, if only they knew, if only they are aware that each marriage is designed by God not for men’s selfish ambitions of just personal desires, that it is beyond them, God has a greater plan for their marriages, if only they knew, they would have been better

what if she refuses to marry Joseph, Felixa asked him “well, she would have missed out being the mother of the messiah” Gabriel quickly pointed out,

“Really?”

”yes, we often guide men to whom they will marry , since heaven has a plan for every of their marriages but you know them, the fall has complicate things, they all choose whomsoever and how so ever, that is why so much chaos exist in their marriages “whaoh! But why can’t someone tell them about it” Lamented Felixa

“We are trying our best , but they have a choice to make, God will not force his will on any man”

“This is interesting”

“Let’s move on time, heaven awaits our arrival” Gabriel said

They looked towards the heavens and launched into the realms, fading into the light beyond,… AN ANGEL’S CONVERSTAION

Let’s imagine for a moment that you are privy to this kind of conversation that God actually has a plan for your relationship, how would you do relationship next time. Many people suffer in relationship because they are totally ignorant of the fact that their marriage is not just a personal Endeavour, it is an eternal plan of God. every single person is purposed by God, there is where you must live, their where you should work, there is what you should be doing, there who you should marry, there is even when to marry and all of this things are to satisfy the purpose of God for your life, it is therefore obvious that very few relationships are in accordance to God’s plan and very few really satisfy God in this respect

yet the foundation for a successful relationship is build on this premise, that is to first to first realize that your marriage isn’t just for you and your personal fulfillment, it is for God’s grand purpose in your life.

 

CONFESS THIS

Lord I surrender my relationship life to you in the name of Jesus.

PRAY THIS

Lord help me to know your will and to do your will concerning the relationship you have chosen for me in jesus name

DO THIS

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STUDY THIS

Luke 1and 2

 

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DARE TO DREAM AGAIN

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DARE TO DREAM AGAIN!

Luke 1:13-14.18

13 But the angel said to him, “Do not be afraid, Zacharias, for your prayer is heard; and your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you shall call his name John. 14 And you will have joy and gladness, and many will rejoice at his birth… And Zacharias said to the angel, “How shall I know this? For I am an old man, and my wife is well advanced in years.”

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Never ever stop dreaming again because of the past pains and past mistakes you have had, because any situation that can steal your dream has successfully stolen your future, so guard your heart with all diligence because out of it comes the issues of life.

writing a daily devotional flings you into a world of many people’s past and mistakes and sometimes you wonder if there is a possibility of a new beginning for many who has blown it up in the past and those who are scared to even dream again, the good news is that God has the precise answer for this question: Yes, you can dream again!

The history of many people are filled with all many of issues, from unfortunate situation like heart breaks to painful situations like rejection, Even from many people’s homes what they see about relationships between their parents makes them cringe at the mention of marriage. some have grown up “falling in love” at the same time “fallen and lost”, at a tender age some people’s heart has been ripped apart and left in pieces, some guts simply don’t go near a relationship waiting until they have enough fortune and financial power and then they believe they will magically just have a great marriage, this is after they have observed many men being dumped for a richer sugar boy or sugar daddy somewhere, some lady’s have simply decided they will just play the game and sleep around, have children a for a couple of men and live their life anyhow, some believe “all men are the same, they all want the same things” she’s just going to give it them what they want and use them also to get what she want , tit for tat or some other things like that. lies rob many of their peace and hopelessness eats away at the precious life, but the truth is deep within everybody we want to be reassured, we want to believe the best , we want to dream the best but our past had taught us otherwise, our society has taught us the opposite, we have possibly dreamt before and were thrown into a night mare, some of us had blatantly been disappointed, so what hope do we have?

I call to the stand the case of Zacharias in the bible as a witness to the fact that you can dare to dream again, Zacharias has hoped before and he had been disappointed, after all his life, it seem all what he knew wasn’t working, he has tried and tried to have a child but he kept failing, so he drifted into doubt and unbelief, he stopped dreaming. We spoke about disappointment two days ago and we made us know that a couple of things can bring about disappointment in our lives 1. Unhealthy expectations, when we have the wrong expectations in our relationships 2. Targeting even the right expectations to the wrong people, where we expect people to give us what only God can give us 3. Now thirdly, refusing to then expect anything again.

but yesterday we took us from ‘unhealthy expectations’ into the realm of ‘pleasant surprises’, here we said we can choose to have a great future by actually expecting what God has said concerning our lives will be established in your life instead of believing the report of the people around you.

Now the issue with many people is: there are contradictory facts that stands as an obvious witness against what they want to believe and many are just too tired to try again, I declare strength into you to dream again in Jesus name. if Zacharias at his old age can have a child, then I don’t care what your past had been like, you can have a great marriage, you can have a fulfilled destiny , you can enjoy a brand new future. Please do not doubt this things, for “Blessed is she (he) who believed, for there will be a fulfillment of those things which were told her (him) from the Lord.” (Luke 1:45). No one determined your future; no statistics can stand against God’s logistics in your life. The truth is there is a way to get it right and there is a truth you will know now that will set you free. There is definitely hope for a tree that has not been cut down, the first thing is that you must choose to submit your relationship to God. Every sweetness and joy you desire is in God. if you what a great wife or husband it’s in God, if you want a rich life, it’s in God. God told me recently” Ayo, I want you to enjoy your relationship:” I turned back and wondered who spoke to me. My own experience has been blissful all the way and it all began when I totally surrendered my relationship to God, I will give us a full gist of this in the future. but I realize that every problem in relationship begins the moment you try to run it with your personal ideas and opinions or societal ideas and opinion, many just are just following their feelings, someone once told me, “pastor Ayo, we ran relationship that way because we don’t know any other way to do it” she then made me realize it was when this devotional started that she was beginning to even have a little light about how to have a successful relationship. Nothing in this kingdom is by accident, there are things you must know, steps you must take to have a great marriage, we must take personal responsibility. your age, body statistics or financial status cannot get you this things, it is your spiritual maturity and your knowledge of the truth that will set you free, this devotional is needed by those your friends that have given up on themselves, please help them and spread it to them. God still does wonders through the truth, you are not marrying the whole world, so you must believe that your own wife or your own husband is being prepared by God for you, stop looking everywhere to determine how your marriage will go, start looking at what God is saying to you, then totally surrender your relationship to God!. Never again go into any relationship without a very specific leading of the Holy Spirit 2. Refuse to follow just your feelings again but base every move you make now on revelation 3. start learning the things you must know to make your relationship successful. Your life is in God’s hands and in your hands, not in the hands of your any one. You will make your marriage prosperous Josh I :8. so start afresh by getting out of any relationship you know never started with God in the first place (you either stop it or it will stop by itself anyways) and begun afresh with this truth. I will take us further into how to have built a solid foundation for a successful relationship and marital destiny as we go along. Complement of this season

 

CONFESS THIS

Thank you Lord because I have a new beginning in you in the name of Jesus. I know that no matter how my past has been like, I can put my life into your hands to navigate it for me into the best relationship

 

PRAY THIS

Lord I pull down every doubt and fears about my future and my marital destiny in the name of Jesus. I take charge of my future and I submit and place it into your hands to take perfect control in Jesus name

 

DO THIS

Keep the ten scriptures you searched our yesterday about what you desire in your future marriage and keep confessing it every day until it is settled in your heart

 

STUDY THIS

Luke 1 and 2

 

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PLEASANT SURPRISES

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PLEASANT SURPRISES

Luke 1:30-31

30 Then the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. 31 And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name Jesus.

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I Love surprises, I have a people around me who Love surprises too, and am sure you do Love surprises. The beautiful thing about surprises is that they often beat the expectations we have in our imagination. Most often we expected less, but we got more. That is why they can be called surprises, if we expect more but we got less it’s called disappointment, yesterday we made us to see how disappointing we can get if we have the wrong expectations and if we target our expectations in the wrong direction inside a relationship.

Today we are focusing on pleasant surprises

In this season of Christmas let’s visit the story of Mary’s relationship to learn a couple of things from her. I believe that every young woman has expectations of what she wants in life, and Mary is not exempted. Ideally she should desire a loving husband, she should love to have beautiful kids and be in a comfortable house and have a peaceful and joyful home where she and her husband can live happily ever after. Mary also had all these expectations, as a matter of fact her expectation was so tangible so much that when an angel brought good tidings to her she easily connected with the new thing God is doing in her and through her, that’s why I said yesterday that we can’t easily accept what we have not expected, as It were when it comes to relationships there are no surprises. if we expect the worse we would probably get that, but if we expect the best then we could expect even get better things from God, the bible says that “the thought that he has for us are thoughts of good and not of evil to give us an expected end,” Jer 29:11. God will look into your heart to find out what you are expecting in your marriage, then he multiplies what he sees there for you, Hope there are great things there

A closer look at Mary’s story will reveal how that Mary never expected that she would be the bearer of the savior of the world, just think about it, Mary is the single most famous woman in the world right now, in fact, there is a whole sect of Christians that professes the lordship of Mary the mother of Jesus, it is simply a fulfillment of prophecy, while the election of Mary was by grace, her response to the angel shows that Mary did not have little expectation of herself, for one thing we know she prepared herself for what she wanted in her marriage, the fact that she has never known any man before means that she never settled for less the point is here, when it comes to relationship, there are no surprises at a level, what you prepare for is what you get, what you desire is what you acquire. You don’t get good if you expect worse.

I know of some ladies who are already rehearsing what they will do if any man they get married to try “nonsense” with them, in fact many divorce that we see nowadays are self fulfilling prophecies of people’s expectations yesterday. I know of many men who already assumed their wife will be unfaithful, so they have already concluded how they will also do extramarital affairs, they have allowed what the society is saying to shape the expectation they have concerning their marriage, this is tragic, but blessed are those that expect the best in their marriage and are prepared to pay the price, for there’s is an heavenly marriage.

There are a couple of things about expectations we must know to enjoy its workings. We must get the right expectations from the word of God, and we must target our expectations towards God and not man, and we must prepare ourselves in accordance with what we expect from God towards our spouses now or in the future.

Our expectation must be right. the scripture tells me my wife is blessed, I can expect to marry a virtuous woman, A good man Obtains favour from the lord, I can expect to have a honeymoon marriage, I have seen that marriage is not a prison yard, it is a garden of pleasures that is how God instituted the first marriage in the beautiful garden of Eden, and that is what I expect, whose report would you believe, he that finds wife finds good thing and obtains favour. Those are all great and beautiful things God has for you, you must expect them. As a woman you must expect a man of integrity and wisdom, you must expect a man of Vision and passion for God. you must keep it clear in your mind that your marriage will be a garden of delight and pleasures, you must see both of you fulfilling Purpose and destiny together and you must see that your children are blessed because of you, that you husband is favored because of you, you must see it before you can be it.

The simple way to get the things is to be in Christ and also maintain your commitment to developing yourself in Christ, you would most likely get what you have deposited in yourself, a good wife will attract a good husband, a blessed man will attract a blessed woman, the beautiful surprise here is that when we expect good, better things we come to us, and when we expect better, the best things will come to us, the exception to the rule is that God just favors some people who had low expectation, but then this in God’s jurisdiction if you want to ensure you have a great marital destiny , don’t leave your future to chance. simply keep looking into the perfect law of liberty and claim what God is Saying about your future marriage, your marriage doesn’t have to be like that of your society or your neighbor’s that shout at themselves several time. you are not them and you have a different destiny, so please consult your heavenly father on the pages of his love letter to you and claim his promises for every aspect of your life, when you do this you will be surprised how much God will do for you “exceedingly abundantly above what you ask for or even imagine, God bless you.

CONFESS THIS

Lord, I have great expectation for my marriage and I trust you to bring it to past in my life and in my spouses life in the name of Jesus, your thoughts for me are thoughts of good and I expect goodness and pleasure in my marriage in Jesus name

PRAY THIS

Lord, I release your grace into my marital destiny for favour and goodness’s in Jesus name. I claim prosperity, peace and joy for my marriage in Jesus name.

DO THIS

Search out ten scriptures that tells about the great things you desire in your future marriage and start confessing it every day until it is settled in your heart

 

STUDY THIS

Psalm 128:1-6, Prov. 30: 10-31,

 

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UNHEALTHY EXPECTATIONS

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UNHEALTHY EXPECTATIONS

Gen 30:1

Now when Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister, and said to Jacob, “Give me children, or else I die!”

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She is the beloved wife of Jacob, Loved admired and cherished above the first wife who was Loved less by their husband Jacob. A lot has transpired in the family before this point but the summary is that Rachel has been Jacob’s favorite wife and he had chosen her before her elder sister Leah to marry to her. He was told to work for seven years to pay the bride price of beautiful Rachel but after those seven years, instead of Rachel being given to Jacob, he was deceived and Leah was given to him, so he hated both the Leah and the father that deceived him, but he decided he was going to work for Rachel again and marry her. But no matter how much of love he showered on her, she doesn’t just give birth to a child, But Leah who was getting little affection was very fruitful. Now we know from the story that sometimes Leah even had to beg for sex from her own husband, on one occasion she had to buy the chance for sex from Rachel (Gen 30: 14-16). So picture this scenario as a husband, you are doing all you can to love and cherish your wife, but she doesn’t just get satisfied because as it were she is not getting pregnant. Until his particular day where she was so frustrated and told Jacob, “give me children or I die”

The expectation you have in a relationship will frustrate you or elevate you, so the question is what kind of expectations do you have.

An expectation is an anticipation of what someone desires, it is what we look forward to enjoying a certain thing in the future. Every one of us has expectations that we live by, these expectations gives us the courage to survive temporary deprivation of our desires and times of unmet needs. Expectations are good because they prepare us for what to get in the future, in fact, what we don’t expect, we do not easily accept, and we will most likely be unprepared for whatever we have not been expecting. Expectation is the mother of hope, and hope makes us survive temporary painful situations. Expectations are important because: the future you do not plan for you might not see, talk less enjoy. This is the purpose of our power of imagination, to give us the capacity to envision the future and prepare for it before it comes, The problem thus is not our expectations, it’s the kind of expectations we have and who we targeted them towards. This is especially true inside relationships where frustration can easily set in if our expectations are not being realized.

I once spoke with a young woman whose main purpose of entering into a relationship is for her financial needs to be met, so it doesn’t matter either the man is mad , insane or indecent, as long as he is “stinkingly” Rich she “falls in Love” with him. Now note that this “Love” is not without an underlying feeling of expectations to go with it. and she will place a demand on him for that expectation to be met, in this case the man who was in this adulterous relationship met these expectations to a degree because he has the means to, the man too, left his wife at home, and came into this relationship for the lady to meet the expectation of his emotional and sexual needs. Now, in this dysfunctional relationship, both their needs seemed met , but it wasn’t long when the relationship crashed, because what each wanted in expectations is not what they really needed to have expected.

they do not only have the wrong expectations, they were going to the wrong people (each other ) for this expectations to be realized, as a single lady, no man should be your source, you must depend only on God and put your hands to work. No matter how much money the man gives to you as a lady all your financial needs cannot be met by him because ‘man’s needs are insatiable by his fellow man’ you will always need more, so what if he slumps and dies, who would you run to this time? As a married man, you cannot look to any woman apart from your wife to satisfy your sexual needs, and even at that to be satisfied sexually is beyond the gymnastics your wife can perform in bed, it has everything to do with your own inner wholeness and spiritual satisfaction, and for the two of them, they expected to get joy and satisfaction from each other, which is impossible, since only God can give true joy and satisfaction that to any man

Now let’s look at Leah’s plea for a child, is it okay to expect to have a child when you are married? Yes, is it okay to expect to have a child when your husband sleeps with you? Yes too! That’s okay! But is it okay to expect your husband to GIVE YOU a child? No it is not! Why? Because he can only commit himself to sleeping with his wife, he cannot guarantee her having a child: that is not in his jurisdiction, so we must differentiate between what we can expect from people in a relationship and what we cannot expect from people in a relationship.

As a man, my wife cannot be expected to meet all my needs, because she cannot possibly meet all my needs, she doesn’t have that capacity, she is not structure to. So to come into a relationship with the list of my needs to be met by her is tantamount to frustration for me and pressures for her. Does that mean I should not have any expectations? No I should! I should have healthy and realistic expectations of my wife, and also know what not to expect from her. I expect her to be committed to me but I can’t hold her responsible for my satisfaction in that relationship. Imagine someone telling a man or a woman “you don’t make me happy” that statement implies that “ I expect you to be the source of my happiness and since you do not make me happy , I am unhappy with you”, now look at this scenario, I can buy my wife all she needs and even shower her with all the affection she desire, but that doesn’t guarantee her happiness because happiness and fulfillment is a personal factor it’s what a person must choose to have by himself or herself from his relationship with God. it’s a factor that you get independent of what others do or do not do for you, so you cannot come into a relationship expecting others to be your source of joy and satisfaction, that is a perfect recipe for unhappiness, because no one , I repeat no one can give you what you do not already have in yourself before entering into a relationship, so relationship is therefore not where you come to get things to fulfill you, its where you come to share what you already have within you with the other person,

For example, It is not the job of your spouse to make you feel like a man, if you don’t have a proper sense of identity as a man before you enter into a relationship, you will keep placing demands on her that she cannot fulfill. Also your spouse cannot take away your low self esteem, he is not God, that is why if you both in a relationship do not connect each other to God, you will wear out yourselves with wrong expectations. Both of you mustn’t cast all your cares on each other, but on God. While you should share in your spouse’s care, you can’t be absolutely responsible for him or her; you must be committed to each other. I am available to support her emotionally, but either she feels supported or not is really not up to me. You can tell someone how special he or she is too you, but you are not responsible for making them feel special; the person must choose to feel special. So even though you have the commitment to say the right things, you must know the limit of what you do, do not replace God in each other’s lives, do not play the role only God is suppose to play

 

CONFESS THIS

Lord, I come to you with all my needs and expectations, and I declare that you are my only source and my God and you will meet all my needs according to your riches in glory in Christ Jesus

 

PRAY THIS

Lord, every wrong expectations in my heart causing frustrations uproot the in Jesus name and replace them with healthy expectations.

 

DO THIS

Check your heart to identify all the expectations you have in a relationship. Make a decision now that you will depend on God alone to help you meet those needs, even when your spouse will be used of God to meet them, you will not look to your spouse as the source but on to God as your ultimate source

 

 

STUDY THIS

MATT 6:25-34

 

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TWO FACED

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TWO FACED

1 Sam 16:7

7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

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Never judge people by what they didn’t have a choice in, judge them only and strictly by the decisions and choices they made about the options they were given.

No one bargained for his or his stature or looks, but we are often prone to measuring and judging people by the very things they did not determine, no one choose their looks, so no one should be evaluated based on this. No one choose their family background, or the state of origin he is born, so why should someone say “I can’t marry him or her because she comes from so and so state” or “she is not my type because of her stature”. It is totally unfair and even wrong to evaluate people based on these things

A greater mistake is also to evaluate yourself by these things and to be wishing and desiring you were different. Look at the choices you didn’t have. you didn’t choose your gender, you didn’t choose your looks and appearance, you didn’t choose your family, you didn’t choose your talent and gifting, you didn’t choose you place of birth, you didn’t choose a lot of things, and you were not meant to choose them, God choose them for you, he must know what he is doing. so please stop mourning what you have or what you do not have in these areas, stop wishing you were born to a different parent or in a different state or country stop looking at your stature or basing your life on your looks, stop evaluating yourself on what you do not have a choice in, so how do we then evaluate people?

you are permitted to evaluate people by the choices they make about the options that life gives to them, it is not fair for example to blame a woman for being born a woman, but if she does with her woman hood is another thing entirely, if she becomes a prostitute or becomes a womb of death for children, we are permitted to hold her responsible for using her feminity in such detrimental manner.

As a guy that you do not have a talent of a celebrity doesn’t mean you are a nonentity , and that you have a gifting that makes you stand out doesn’t mean you should be arrogant and worshipped. in fact , if as a male, you now begin to take advantage of people because of your talent, then we can hold you responsible for using your gifting wrongly, all vices on the earth are done by using the things we can’t account for carelessly based on our choices of how we use them. That’s why God doesn’t judge us by our strengths and gifting, he judges us by how we respond to life with the things we are given, and that’s our character. God judges us by our character

This then takes us to the two faces we have or the two types of identity that we have

Giftedness Identity

Character identity

Your giftedness identity is the power and strength you have deposited in you by God, for example, an eagle has a giftedness of flight, your identity in this area makes you able to be relevant in other people’s lives

Your character identity is the person you are becoming based on how you use your giftedness.

for example that I can write is a giftedness locked up in my identity, I develop this giftedness identity and I am using it right now, but who I am becoming in terms of character is a function of what I am using my writing gift for and how am I using this writing gift, if tomorrow I begin to write books on a frivolous topics like “how to seduce a girl in less than ten minutes”, I would have used my giftedness identity but would also have been destructive in my character identity. It’s called abuse or misuse of identity

So we must not just be comfortable with who we are in terms of strength, we must choose who we are becoming In terms of character. this is very crucial since, in the long run, how much of satisfaction you get from life and relationships is not based on what you make our of your strength in terms of profits and benefits of your giftedness, it’s how you use it. Mind you what we were born with is ability question, what we do with it is a moral question. you can be anointed and still be flawed in your character, you can be beautiful and still have a ugly marriage because of lack of character, you can be gifted to make money and still end up in the prison because of greed, many so called gifted people end up in divorce court because they trust more the benefit of their giftedness than in the humility of their character identity, life rewards us based on how we respond to the gifts we are given, either we are going to be happy or not, it’s not a product of your gifting it’s a product of your character.

the thing about real character is that it doesn’t shout, the fact that you take all the nonsense of those people and refuse to act up at that moment may not be lauded by anybody, the fact that you remain single and faithful in your heart to your future life partner , no body may see it, but all these things will go deep within you to communicate a greatness and depth of satisfaction that people who compromise in their values and character cannot know. at the end, who we are in terms of character goes a long way to determine the end result we get in terms of the impact our giftedness will make on us, this aspect of your identity is subtle and most people do not pay attention to it. it requires a sensitivity and discernment of the spirit to see through people’s obvious ace into the hidden face , the true character of the heart.

So never make relationship decision just merely on people’s strength of giftedness, examine carefully how they use it. If he is a professional but lacks truth on his lips, then you can be careful around him, if she is beautiful but has ugly words coming out from her mouth, then it’s safe to keep a distance, if he is talented but promiscuous at the same time, then we can justly remove his name from integrity list. mind you, we do not pass final verdict on people like saying “they cannot change or that they will go to hell”, that is not our jurisdiction, only God is the judge of the final ends of people what we are permitted to do is evaluate them and our relationship with them since we are human who is still working on our weakness, you do not want the wrong influence in our life or you do not want to fall into trap to any one because of the spectacular display of strength. I see many singles have been seduced by this appearance factor or the giftedness factor. so you be wise and see the way God sees people and evaluate people like him

CONFESS THIS

Lord, I am not moved by what I see, I am not moved by what a sense with my physical senses, but moved only by the spirit of God is Jesus name

PRAY THIS

Lord create in me a discerning heart and an understanding that helps e to make the right decisions in relationships

DO THIS

Learn to differentiate between the two faces that people have. They might not have bad face. most will flaunt their strength and hide their character so watch it

 

STUDY THIS

I peter 3;1-22

 

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