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EMOTIONAL MATURITY

HEARTSTREAMS devotionals (Singles and Married)

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MATH 7:6

Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine…

Most people who claims to fall in Love at first sight actually fell into trouble without such an insight

The fifth Treasure we are exploring i. EMOTIONAL MATURITY

How safe will you be in a house without fences and which doors are always open to anyone that wants to come in? Not very safe I guess! That’s exactly how it is when a person’s heart is always open for relationship with anyone.

The mere fact that you are going to get married to only one person in your life time means that the remaining set of people you will meet will be wrong for you, so you must learn to guard your heart against reckless emotional ties and bonding with every so called “potential” mate that comes your way.

Don’t be a PLC ; Public Liability Commodity. Don’t cast your treasures out in the street for anyone to have access to, you are a divine treasure, designed and packaged specially for one person, stop behaving like a public property.

Emotional maturity means you have learnt to discipline your feelings and to control it. It means you are the one managing your emotions and not your emotions managing you

Watch it, so many singles are emotionally immature! Emotional immaturity always get easily carried away when shown little affection. Emotional immaturity is the one who depends on others to feel Loved, complete and accepted. Emotional immaturity is always lonely and that is the major reason it is looking for a relationship. Emotional immaturity is the type that falls in Love instead of walking into Love, later, it then falls into trouble without knowing it.

Am usually amazed at the amount of trouble we singles fall into because of our “feelings”, yet we cannot run relationship by feeling and not pay a dare price for our foolishness, feelings are fickle, fast and fades away easily, feelings are non-factual, but instead are based on fictions and fantasies, feelings produces fake fruits that tastes bitter at the end, if you run relationship on feelings, you will fall flat into fatal flaws so be careful, instead, operate a principle based Love, and make your decisions by spiritually sound judgement, no matter how it feels, seek wise counsel from wisdom source, Eventually, the hall mark of maturity is ability to wait out feelings until all the facts are obvious before making any crucial decisions about your marital choices, stay blessed.

CONFESS THIS

My heart is guarded and secured in christ. My soul is protected against wrong feelings and desires.

PRAY THIS

Lord train my heart to be disciplined, Release in me the grace to be emotionally sound in Jesus name.

DO THIS

Cut off every wrong emotional ties by stopping every form of communication with such people. What you feed flourish, while whatever you starve dies.so starve that unhealthy bond.

STUDY THIS

PROVERBS 5: 1-23

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BLIND DATE Part 2

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BLIND DATES Part 2

GEN 2:18: The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I need to make a suitable partner for him.”

Only fools look to marriage as their ultimate source of joy and fulfilment, the wise knows only God offers such a thing.
Many young people have the erroneous belief that marriage will give them all the joy and satisfaction that they crave for in life, so they pursue a guy or a lady vigorously with all their might, hoping that once they find that ‘knight in shining armour’ they will be satisfied or when they get charmed by that ‘winking beauty’ they will be fulfilled, but at the end what they find is emptiness and gross dissatisfaction. Why is this so? It is so because, marriage cannot satisfy you until it is positioned to fulfil your God given destiny and satisfy a compelling vision.

Please let me re-interate it again! Marriage cannot replace Vision, neither can your vision be permitted to displace your marriage. They must be a catalyst to each other. In fact, in Gen 2, we found out that Adam was not given a help/ partner suitable for him, until he was given a Garden to till, Guard and protect. In other words, until Vision was in place, partnership was never in the mind of God for Adam.

As a single you must discover the garden you are meant to till. In the bible, Ruth was found when Working in the field, Rebekah was discovered while pursuing her vision in cattle rearing, Adam wasn’t leafing around feeling lonely and looking for who to Love him when God gave him a help suitable for him, all these were busy passionately developing themselves and pursuing the actualization of a divine aspiration when they found the right Life-partners, The truth is that, without vision, you will always be in confusion on who to marry, but when your eye is single your heart will be full of light to recognise your own wife or husband.

A life without vision is not just a Source of relationship confusion, it is a source of marital dissatisfaction and un- fulfilment . Ultimately, a purpose-less life remains a burdensome existence. Relationship has never been successful because you selfishly pursue it, it is successful because you selflessly pursue your God given vision . So as a single, develop your vision, no body wants to marry a ‘Blind Partner’, be developing your strength and work on your weaknesses. You have over half a decade of marital life to live, doing what? With no vision, you will loose passion for each other. So get into God and ensure you get an insight into your purpose for existence and the vision you are suppose to run with, that way, you and your future partner will enjoy a blissful romantic ride on your way to satisfying God’s heartbeat for your existence..

CONFESS THIS

I Live a purposeful life and a vision driven existence.

PRAY THIS

Lord, open my heart today to know what my vision in life is suppose to be inn jesus name

DO THIS

Separate three days for fasting and prayer to ask God to reveal you own purpose and vision to you

STUDY THIS

Gen 2: 1-end

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BLIND DATE

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BLIND DATES

PROV 29:18 Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

Without a clear vision for Life, relationship is clearly a distraction.

The greatest blindness in life is not lack of eye sight, it is the lack of insight into your life’s vision. And when a single has no vision for life, marriage becomes a source of confusion in life.

The 4th treasure we are discussing is VISION

There are two mistakes singles make in this area: they either lack a solid vision for life, or they make marriage their main focus of vision,either way they are blind and anyone who goes into relationship with them must be ready to face the consequences  These singles’ sole focus, Goal and purpose in life is to find a prince charming or a beauty queen, after. This they have no other goal than to make babies and climb the proverbial co-operate ladder, these eventually lead to a maritally dissatisfied existence. Because God instituted marriage to attain your life’s vision and purpose, if you don’t have a vision,marriage becomes a burdensome mileage ,instead of a delightful blessing. You don’t need a LIFE-PARTNER if don’t have a LIFE-BUSINESS, since only people in Business needs partnership.  To prepare as a single for a fulfilling marital destiny you must discover your purpose for life and be running with your God given vision, you must be developing yourself and adding value to yourself. Without adequate vision preparation, you are totally ill-prepared for a fulfilling marriage. Your age, academic status or financial status notwithstanding, it takes only divinely inspired vision to Have a delightful marital experience. I believe that most disagreements that exist in marriage is due to lack of a common compelling vision. Vision makes couples best of friends and if you have noticed, people can divorce their wife or husband, but people rarely divorce their best friends. Do you want to secure your marriage in the future, secure a God ordained vision in the present. Vision Unites, Blindness divides, please Get a vision for Life.

CONFESS THIS

My eyes of understanding is opened and I see clearly the reason and purpose for my life.

PRAY THIS

Lord, give me a vision for life, that will make my marriage a delightful experience.

DO THIS

Get books on VISION from the bookshop and ready about it

STUDY THIS

Prov 16: 1-33

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NEVER THE LESS

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I TIM 4:12

Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

Absence of a Romantic relationship in your life does not diminish your self worth,so never again let anyone make you feel inferior because you are not in a relationship.

Let’s Explore Again The Treasure of SELF-WORTH from another angle

its comforting to be in a God ordained marriage oriented relationship, but what do you do when you are still single and searching? Then you must learn to enjoy your single-hood. Once you are married, you will never have the opportunity to be single like this again. Paul admonished us that everyone should be contented with whatever position he has found himself (either single or married), no one is superior or inferior to others by the virtue of their relationship status. You must refuse to feel lesser or lower in value to people who are parading themselves in a relationship.

Many married people are regretting their marital decisions today because as a single, they felt pressured by their society into relationship. They thought that their self esteem and dignity is related to their marital status. Please be careful, not everyone is ordained by God to get married early in life, destiny is unique, so it is foolishness to compare yourself to some couples you know. And who told you people in relationship are happier? Nobody can give you in a relationship what you lack as a single. Do not let others despise you, and do not despise your self. God has A plan for your marital destiny, please enjoy where you are, on your way to where you are going.

CONFESS THIS

I am a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar person; I show forth the praises of him who hath called me out of darkness into his marvellous light:

PRAY THIS

Lord, give me the grace to see myself the way you see me and to appreciate what you are doing in my life at this point in time.

DO THIS

Separate yourself from people that despise you, diminish you or put you down because of your single-hood, instead spend more time with people that build you up.

STUDY THIS

1 COR 7: 25-40

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YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS!

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YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS!!!

1 PET 2:9 But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light: .

Until you Love yourself , no one can Love you. So never go into a relationship to look for who to Love you.

The third Treasure we are discussing today is SELFWORTH

How you value yourself will affect every decision you make in a relationship; from your choice of marriage partner, to how you relate with them in that relationship. When you don’t have a sense of worth, you’ll either be treated like trash or you will treat others like dirt. Why? Because you cannot Love others beyond you Love yourself.

There are many singles who have low self-worth because of their looks, background, their past, their financial status or even their single hood status, but this need not be, because your real worth has nothing to do with what you have,your real worth is based on who you are in christ; a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar person. Please stop pricing your self low!

No one has your price, since you are priceless. You are not a product of anything in your environment, neither are you your past, you are royalty,

Please carry yourself with dignity, until you recognise your self-worth, you will be dragged in the mud of wrong relationships. Please, don’t be desperate to get out of single hood! single hood is not a prison yard. Stop comparing yourself with those in a relationship! No one is better than you because they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Most people are looking for who to Love them, but until you Love yourself , you will never feel Loved by anyone. Those who you are looking up to for Love, are desperately looking for who to Love them too, no one can give you what you don’t already have.

You are worth more than to settle for any type of relationship because you are looking for love and worth from people. Your value is not in your marital status neither your worth in your ability to get a mate, you are complete and whole all by yourself. No one is doing you a favour by getting into relationship with you, so please stop looking desperate for Love and attention .

You must recognise your worth in christ, He considers you so precious he gave up his throne to take you as his bride, please treat his Bride with Dignity and Royalty. Self worth is built on your relationship with your heavenly father. It is developed as you know him and you build your character. The more integrity you have, the more dignity you attract. As a single, develop a sense of purpose, manage your emotions very well and never feel less because of delay in marriage or your present state. God Loves you, the question is, do you Love yourself?

CONFESS THIS

I am precious in God’s eyes, I am Royalty, I carry myself with honour and I treat others with dignity.

PRAY THIS

Lord, show me who I am in christ so that I can know your Love in my life.

DO THIS

Stop evaluating yourself by your past, financial status, certificate, Age, looks,

Relationship status and anything apart from What God says about you

STUDY THIS

1 PET 2:1-25

 

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CHARACTER MATTERS

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CHARACTER MATTERS

MATT 12:35

A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.

If what you do in the closet, you can’t announce in the open, something is terribly wrong with an aspect of your life; that aspect is Character

Today we are discussing the 2nd Treasure. CHARACTER

Let me ask you this questions: If you were a different person from you, would you marry YOU?

Are you sure that your future spouse will be happy living forever with your type of character?

I know you have ensured you look good and have perfected the art of public relations, but would you recommend the real you inside for you own brother and sisters that you really Love? If you can’t answer this questions affirmatively then you are not really ready for a great marriage in the future.  Character is who you really are inside as oppose to what you make people believe you are. It is what is going on in your heart which no one can see except God. It is who you are when no one is looking. Character is how you respond under pressure. You may look all nice and fly when things are smooth, but your temper is A thousand degree hotter than the sun’s temperature. Are you so impatient and deceitful, are you someone who is disloyal and unfaithful but you desire a faithful spouse, check your track record, would you parade it to your children as a good example in the future. Until you build character, you are a potential disaster in marriage. Five characters you must possess to have a great marital destiny includes; FAITHFULNESS as a single; it means you don’t jump from one relationship to another at the drop of a pin.

INTERGRITY; it means you are truthful and pure in motive. You say what you mean and you mean what you say

SACRIFICE: means you put others first before yourself and go the extra mile to care

PATIENCE: means ability to endure temporary pain while waiting for a future goodness without compromise.

RESPECTFUL: humility to treat others with honour and dignity no matter Who they are

COURAGE; to believe in people or something no matter the present circumstances and to stand for what you believe.

If a single lacks any of these basic core characters, you don’t want even your enemy to be in a relationship with that person. Your depth of character is what will determine the height the fulfilment you will enjoy in relationship. The way you treat the worse person in your life today is a sign to the way you will treat your Lover in the future, so treat people well. To develop these characters, ensure you are connected to God in a solid relationship. Ensure your first -Treasure (Faith and Love for God) is in place and this will come as an natural offshoot . God bless you.

CONFESS THIS

God is at work in me both to will and to do of his great pleasures. So, I develop the good treasures of great character and I become a person of virtue

PRAY THIS

Lord, take away every seed of wrong character and negative vices from me in jesus name

DO THIS

Watch your character in your relationship with people and make adjustments.

STUDY THIS

GAL 5: 13-26

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THE THIRD MAN!

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THE THIRD MAN

Eccl 4:12

12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.  NKJV

Relationship always involve a third party, the third party is either God or Satan, choose ye this day

In the next couple of  days am going to introduce you to five treasures that would make your relationship great when you cultivate them within you.

The only time relationship really makes sense is when God is involved in it. If you move into relationship without consulting with your maker, you are not safe in that relationship.

This world is spiritual, there are invisible world of reality that just your feelings and natural mind cannot deal with. You must develop a deep awareness of the spiritual and develop a solid  relationship with God through the bible and by knowing him intimatel Not only is it important for you to be born again to truly have fulfilling relationship, you must have a personal relationship with God. God is the author of relationships, without him you cannot be successful at one. God is Love and without him at the center of your relationship, you will be totally lost.   Great relationships cannot exist without involving God in it. Fishes swim in the water, birds soar in the air, trees flourish on the ground, Man thrives on Love and since God is Love, man can’t survive without God.

A Godless single is a Loveless single, since God is Love, a Godless single has no treasure of true Love in him to others, no matter how many flower a guy gives you, if he is not serious about God, he is a fake. No matter how beautiful that girl is, if she is a superficial Christian, she will bring trouble into your life. Getting involved in a relationship without getting God involved is like boarding a flight that the pilot is absent.  As a single the first treasure is to DEVELOP A DEEP LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. This is a very practical thing that when absent will make relationship life miserable. Be born again if you are not, join a church, develop healthy bonds with other Christians, read the bible daily, learn to pray d When you take your faith in God seriously serious, God will help you to find the right mate, he will also teach you how to love your partner, he will help you through challenging times in your relationship, and he will protect you from evil invasion of your love life. I believe that the high rate of divorce and unfulfillment in many people’s marriages is because the third man is absent in it. As a rule, only relationships built on God will stand the test of time. SELAH

CONFESS THIS

God is the center of my life from today on, he is the third man in my relationship. I am filled with God’s Love and I grow in faith.

PRAY THIS

Lord, I surrender my heart to you, I surrender my relationship life to you today. Take control of it. Not my will but your will be done in my life in Jesus name.

DO THIS

Ensure you keep Doing all the exercises in each devotional, pray and study with it. If you are consistent, you will see a dramatic turnaround in your life and relationships.

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I JOHN 4: 1-21

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LOOKING FOR LOVE?

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LOOKING FOR LOVE?
John 3:16 for God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son…
Anyone going into the relationship market to Look for Love, is a bad customer, avoid that person.
Let me ask you a crucial question about relationship
Can you tell me 5 qualities you want in a life partner?
Alright.
Can you now tell me five qualities you have ready to have a successful relationship with your partner in the future?
What I realized when you tell people to do this exercise is that most people are often more concerned with what they want in a relationship, but they are usually clueless about what they are suppose to have to offer. yet Love is really not about what you get from others, true Love is about what you give to others. Imagine someone told you he Loves you and all he keeps talking about is what he wants from you, I am sure you will consider the person selfish. But think thoroughly about it, have you been thinking about what treasures you are preparing to give to your future spouse, is all you are dreaming of not the Love benefits you desire to get from the other person.
 The aim of relationship is not to look for Love but to look for who to Love
Ask yourself, Do you really have what it takes to Love your partner and make him or her happy in your marriage, or you are going into marriage looking for happiness and pls don’t think successful marriage is a product of good sex or fat account if that is true then hollywood stars would have excellent marriages.. You must seriously be developing virtues of character like faithfulness, integrity, patience, sacrifice, spirituality and kindness. If you develop the capacity to Love right, you will attract the right person to yourself. The secret to finding a great life partner is to become one yourself and to develop the capacity to recognise your own partner when God presents him or her.
(Next couple of  days, I will be sharing with you 5 treasures you need to have invested in yourself as a single for you to have a great marriage in the future)
CONFESS THIS
I am treasure of Love within me, I am Loaded to be a blessing and a giver to my future life partner
PRAY THIS

Lord take out every seed of selfishness in me and give me the capacity for selfless Love in Jesus name

DO THIS

Deliberately begin to list your strength and weaknesses and begin to work on your floors

 

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1 COR 13:1-end
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MR AND MRS SUPERFICIALITY!

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MR AND MRS SUPERFICIALITY

LUKE 5; 4

… Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for a draught.

Rare treasure aren’t usually seen on the surface, they are seen in the deep. If you must have a successful relationship life, you must have an appreciation for the ‘Deep’. If you are someone that is carried away easily by the superficial, you will miss out on God’s treasure when he sends him or her to you.

In preparing for marriage, it is not enough to make your hair and look good, your body statistic won’t get you a fulfilling marriage, neither would your school certificate do it. The things that are most important in relationships cannot be measured in cash or kind, neither can they be seen in the body shape or skin colour , the real things are virtues that people have built into themSelves overtime, if you haven’t built them in, you cannot bring them out for your life partner in the future.

Superficial things can be exciting for sometime but they don’t last: skin gets wrinkled, riches can grow wings, certificate will be obsolete, age is a number, and status is deceptive, only inwardly built characters will guarantee a great relationship.

How many times have you heard people who after dating someone for four years that is when they realised their beauty wasn’t beautiful after all but a beast in disguise or some discovers in marriage that their spouse was a wolf in sheep clothing. You must learn to separate reputation from inner character. Most people will present their best side to you in relationship, if you are desperate and unwise you will fall for the ‘nice-ness’ factor. don’t fall for pretenders, Please let wisdom guide you in the choice of marital partner, pay attention to what really matters and don’t get carried away by vanity. And you too take off the mask of superficiality, roll up your sleeves and start proper investment of what really matters Into yourself. God help you.

CONFESS THIS

I refuse to be carnal, but spiritual. I grow up in my inner virtues. I also develop sensitivity for treasures in jesus name

PRAY THIS

Lord open my eyes of understanding to recognise true treasures in people’s life and not get carried away by vanity in Jesus name

DO THIS

Identify things you want in a life partner that you know doesn’t matter and decide to do away with them.

 

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PROV 7:1-27

 

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READY OR NOT!

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READY OR NOT!

GEN 2;7

7 And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

Entering a relationship unprepared is like taking a carpenter into the surgical room to do brain surgery, both of them are disastrous

I can never forget talking to a group of teenagers,each one of them felt they were ripe for a relationship, in fact most of them were in one relationship or the other, one would wonder what they are doing with a relationship while still wearing diapers  I have said that many people believe that relationship is a playing ground, that is why many ‘children’ are into it. That you have feelings does not prepare you for marriage just like that you have a strong desire for American films does not turn you into an American citizen . Great relationships requires great preparation, the same as if you must pass an exam you must be prepared for it. if you notice, until Adam was fully formed eve wasn’t brought out for him. Many singles have nothing to offer their future partner except stinking socks and dirty under wears, yet they believe they are ready for marriage. Single hood is not the time to be obsessed with looking for a life partner, it is the time to mature into the kind of person that will have a successful life.

When we miss our time of preparation, it is obvious we can never have a great manifestation. there is no miracle about weddings, wedding day doesn’t change your true status, the same way being a gate man in an hospital environment doesn’t make one a doctor. There is no substitute for preparation except lamentation. Wedding ring would not add to your character, Neither would a wedding cake add flavour to your personality. It takes intense preparation to succeed at Loving others for life . As a matter of fact a wedding launches you into a world of performance either you are ready or not, your preparation time was your single life So if you are a single, begin to start investing in your spiritual and emotional development. Become the kind of person you want to get married to. Build your faith, refine your character, be running with a vision. Discover your purpose. Mature emotionally. Keep investing treasures into your self, if you are faithful at this, you would have nothing to worry about in your future marriage

CONFESS THIS

I am getting transformed into the image of christ in jesus name, my character is growing, my faith is getting built up, I am equipped for a great marriage in jesus name

PRAY THIS

Lord, every treasure required for me to have a successful marital destiny, Lord add it to my life in jesus name

STUDY THIS

ROM 8: 18-39

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